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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, my sister (she 45/me 42) is emotionally stunted, lacks emotional regulation, and lashed out/blamed our dad for our brother's substance abuse-related death a few years ago. She verbally attacked our dad, said many hurtful things, asked to be removed from the will, and distanced herself from both of us. My dad was deeply hurt but left her in the will. My brother's death was not my dad's fault, but I am convinced the grief expedited my dad's death (our mother passed when we were teens). I remained close to my dad until his death and was deeply hurt by his passing. I mostly ignored my sister's reaction since I had long suspected hints of mental illness with her; her life has been one mess and mistake after another. Before he passed, he placed me as a joint account holder and beneficiary on several accounts.

I have refrained from telling my sister about the separate accounts because of her irrational nature and short memory; she already has her hands out concerning his estate and said little when I reminded her of her removal request. The joint bank statements are all over his house. I am considering shredding them since they provide substantially more to me and don't concern her. Should I shred them and never mention the extra I received to prevent arguments about unfair treatment, or let the chips fall as they may if she sees them? [/quote]
Don't hide, but don't offer her the information either. Don't spend on it unless to pay your dad's final arrangements. She can find out after you secure a lawyer. She sounds a little like a jerk, but not knowing her side either but I have someone like this in my family, it on the surface sounds the same. Blames the parent, entitled, unforgiving, yet also a complete mess and comes around for a money handout and to lash out to deflect.

Don't know what the will leaves to either, I didn't see if you mentioned it in another reply to on here? Are you the executor? Get a probate lawyer, didn't see if you got one already. 
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