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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks, all.  I will ask the counselor.

He has a 3.6 GPA but just stopped doing work this year.  He doesn't have an IEP or 504. He doesn't need a tutor; now that he's actually doing the work, he's getting decent grades. I just think it's too late for this quarter.

We rent and our lease is up in June. I don't think we will stay in the county and I wasn't sure whether summer school would work.  I didn't know about OPTG - I will ask about that.

Thank you.

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If he just stopped doing work, then you should remove and erase all privileges. You’re the parent, crack down.[/quote]

Also, please reconsider your parenting practices. The question should not be how do “I dig my kid out.” Your kid dug this hole. He will either dig himself out or learn a very hard (and valuable) lesson that people who don’t work for something don’t get rewarded. It’s almost impossible (unless it’s like a AP class or something) for kids to fail in MCPS if they are doing the bare minimum. I’m pretty sure I would get fired if I had “work avoidance.” Same thing for school. Stop trying to save your kid. They are almost an adult and need to face the music. [/quote]

Spoken by someone who has not been there and done that. The kids needs saving until they get into college, that's the hard truth these days. I saved my kid so many times in high school - he had a really rough 4 years of it. Once he got into college, it was much smoother sailing and I didn't have to lift a finger. He'd matured and he wasn't as stressed out and sleep deprived, since he could roll out of bed and go to 9 am classes (instead of waking up at 6 and taking a long bus to school); and most of the coursework was in his desired major, topics he actually wanted to learn about.

OP, do your best for your kid. High school is hard, and he deserves the help. His brain is not mature yet. He will be able to save himself in the future, and he will remember kindly all the support you gave him.

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Infantilizing young adults is not helping them. He is old enough to know right from wrong. He’s doing what he thinks he can get away with. Parents have to make him feel the consequences of his choices. Not shield him from them.

Also, I have no idea what you’re talking about with the college scenario you sketched out.

Many students have to deal with 8 am classes and most college students have to do some form of general Ed courses their freshmen and sophomore years. They don’t get to take classes focused on their major until junior year.[/quote]

The current generation of kids in high school lived through some of the worst decisions adults in their lives could have made, especially covid- but not limited to covid. I don't see how helping a kid make it through graduation is infantilizing them. Adults support their partners to make it through hard times. I can't imagine allowing a struggling child to fail is anything less than caveman-think.[/quote]

"Supporting your kid" means ensuring they understand the gravity and severity of the consequence of their choices and holding them accountable to making different ones. I didn't say ignore the situation. But I am saying don't clean up their mess for them.[/quote]

School refusal *should* be an urgent call to action for  the adults in the room that something is wrong.  Sounds like they've failed this student so far.[/quote]

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