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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Met at 22 and 36.  Married at 25 and 39.  Together 17 years/married 15 now with a teen/tween.  We've had our ups and downs, but nothing that specifically has anything to do with our age gap - usually stuff .. money, sex, in-laws.

Even having our lived experience, I definitely would have some strong feelings if our son brought home a co-ed in his mid-30s - mostly just because society is so weird about it.

And to the previous posters saying "wait 20 years" ... we're almost there and I'm not sure what the issue is.  He's in good health and is at a place in his career where he's basically on cruise control and can do some of the day-to-day heaving lifting with the kids (carpools, homework help), which has made my c-suite climb so. much. easier.

Good luck to your daughter - you sound like a great mom and your support means everything to her.[/quote]

I noticed women who are with much older men are typically not that interested in building a deeper connection. It’s more transactional: money, sex, and just not being bothered by anything external (in-laws, for the above poster). How they look together as a couple +kids on Instagram, very superficial. 
My exH would get irritated discussing my challenges at work; political issues; son’s issues at school. Not good with foreplay in bedroom. ExH built an office in the basement and was spending most of his days there, working. He now dates a 20 years younger woman with two little kids but don’t cohabitate with her, just takes on trips and restaurants. Now that he lives alone he seems to be the happiest. [/quote]

OP - I very much appreciate the insight on red flags to look out for and future problems that she may not be considering now. I think my concerns lie with the fact that she, as a 24 year old, is naive about the reality of aging. I also am worried that there are reasons he isn’t married that women closer to his age have picked up on.

DD’s last boyfriend was 33 and she left him because he was superficial/not genuinely interested in her as a person. I don’t think I am worried that her new relationship is transactional. To be quite frank, she is not after him for money because she has more. They are also very good friends. I think I would be entirely approving of this relationship if I wasn’t worried that there is something inherently wrong with a man of his age interested in a younger girlfriend. [/quote]

Your daughter may be just naive and not transactional. But HE is, just in a different way. [/quote]

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