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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could not disagree more with the people saying get a neuropsych. This is not adhd or anxiety. My DS has both. It's just bad behavior. [/quote]

Eh, just because you have kids with diagnoses does not make you an expert.  Various disorders can manifest themselves in different ways.  I don't know what is going on with OP's kid but agree it seems out of the bounds of "normal" and would talk to my pediatrician about next steps.[/quote]

No but people are so quick to jump to ADHD/ASD for bad behavior. On some level I get it - it is comforting to think your kid has a disorder rather than you aren't doing a good job parenting them. But this to me sounds like OP is experiencing the fruits of extremely permissive parenting. [/quote]

So invoking more punishments will stop the meltdowns?[/quote]

Honestly maybe? [/quote]

+1. Barring a diagnosible difference, most kids respond [i]really well[/i] to boundaries and knowing what the consequences are. A punishment shouldn't be putative, but a consequence designed to grow and teach and reinforce behavior.

If my 8 year old - who is quite strong willed - told me to shut up she would be the one leaving the table, not me. Or there would be extra chores. If she was throwing a fit at the park I'd pick her up and buckle her into her booster and we'd go home where she'd finish the fit (if it had not already stopped) in her room alone until she was ready to discuss in a normal manner. If she made a rude comment she'd be losing a privilege.

Also OP - your kid does not hate you. She's acting out looking for a boundary, looking for you to be the parent.

It might sound kind of odd to suggestion fiction as a parenting manual, but it seems like the book "Understood Betsy" might be good for you.[/quote]

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