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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don't think we should be teaching girls forgiveness.
Because despite what people claim it sets them up for continued abuse.[/b]

Considering this girl is still hanging out with bullies it doesn't seem like her apology is sincere.

I don't think you need to do or say anything about it specifically beyond asking how she feels about the apology [/quote]

[b]Sorry, the bolded is just stupid.  Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting.  You can forgive someone and just move on, not go back to the way things were.[/b]

If you teach your girls that forgiveness is bad, just bear in mind that this means they will also be learning that *they’re* not worthy of forgiveness either.  Better hope your daughters never screw up![/quote]

But That's exactly how it translates in real life.
And you are in no place to lecture anyone given you can't explain a point without abusive language.
That you are so invested in  insisting that a bully is entitled to forgiveness  makes me think you or your daughter are bullies.
Contrary to your believe intentionally hurting someone is not  a required milestone.[/quote]

And yet you didn’t respond to my point about what your attitude is actually teaching your own daughter.  I think this is the sort of rigidity that can drive kids to self harm, as much as I’m sure you don’t want to hear that.  Because once again, you are literally teaching your child that there is never a way to make up for or move on from a mistake, and your child will undoubtedly make a mistake someday (because she is human, and we all do).  And if she is smart she’ll know she can’t talk to you about it.[/quote]

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