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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Traditional roles. To me, marriages worked back in the day for a reason, there were clear roles. The man was the leader of the home and provided financially. The woman took on my of the parenting role with the children and took care of the home. I made sure to find a man that had a similar outlook on marriage. [/quote]

Even though we did not start off in traditional roles, once kids came along and grandparents became old, the traditional roles were the only one that worked.

Also, when I was working, I did not respect the money that my DH was bringing home and I was not respecting the money I was making, because we had lots of cash and very little time.    I was very free with throwing money at every problem I had.  As a result, the fact that at home it was not a 50-50 sharing of work especially when kids came into the picture made me super resentful. Both of us were short of time, stressed and unhappy. Both of us were lacking time and the work of taking care of kids, household, social obligation was like a huge burden on our head.  We also wanted to spend time with our kids and not have someone else raise them, so our money was not able to buy us the time we needed, even after outsourcing low-skilled jobs like housekeeping.

Now I am at home, I am ok with a more uneven sharing of domestic work. Even 70-30 work share is palatable to me.  I am still outsourcing cleaning etc, so that I have more time at home.  I also have access to the money and assets we have - equally.  Just like my DH enjoys the well run household and well raised kids - equally. 
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