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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I tend to attribute that kind of unfriendly behavior in adults to a lack of social skills, and I never really encountered it until I had DCs and was obligated to interact with other parents at school and in other settings. I was PA president for a couple of years, and I was constantly dealing with people who didn't seem to understand that being arrogant or condescending straight out of the gate is not a good way to win friends and influence people.[/quote]

All we have here is that OP feels like part of women supporting other women means she should be able to walk into PTA and be friendly and attractive and other women should want to be her friend, and it's not working. That's weird, and you don't need to be arrogant or condescending to not be into that.[/quote]

It's not weird to make an effort to be friendly to other parents in a school setting where you presumably want to encourage a supportive community and model normal social skills for your kids. I'm not suggesting everyone needs to be friends and have fun together, but OP has described these women as catty and haughty. I would define the inability to be cordial to other people in a PTA meeting or soccer game, even if you don't want to be their friends, as a poor social skill. [/quote]

OP didn't say they weren't being cordial at a PTA meeting, she said that she felt like being friendly wasn't making her interesting or giving her social capital.[/quote]

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