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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you’ve done quite enough already. Poor kid. [/quote]

This.

that's not an "awful" counselor in the slightest, he actually had a meeting with your kid, which is more than most.[/quote]
[b]No adult employed by a school [/b]should tell a student their parent is too pushy. They can think it, they can say it to the parent if they like, but it’s not ok to say that to the child.

No one in authority over where students end up for college should have views that blame “Chinese” for the end of affirmative action.

This guy is awful. [/quote]'

Why can't they say this? Because they're only there to "serve you"?? Total entitled response from the OP and you. Unbelievable.[/quote]
Because it’s not appropriate for an adult to denigrate a parent to the child. Keep it between the adults. The student has no power to defend their parent (power imbalance from a perspective of age and authority, especially if that person controls a significant part of their ability to get into college). The student then fears that the adult will take out their frustrations with the parent on the child, but can’t do anything about it - huge loss of trust and confidence.

The school employee needs to keep it to themself, complain to other school employees, or take it up with the parent, NOT with the student. It is inappropriate and unprofessional. [/quote]

Saying a parent is "pushy" is hardly denigrating. You're too precious. [/quote]

If a colleague called another colleague pushy at work, that would be inappropriate.
This is worse.  Counselor needs to work with the child only and not make reference to the parents.  The only exception I see is if the parent is "pushing" the child to attend schools the kid doesn't want to attend at all. Even in that situation, it's not the counselor's business.[/quote]

Have you ever had a job? It really does not sound like you have. [/quote]

PP.  Yes. 3 decades worth.  That kind of comment can be traded between (work) friends but it isn't appropriate.  Labelling people is usually rude and can be risky.  What's the rudest thing you've said to your boss or to a co-worker in public?  Maybe you work somewhere where people verbally attack each other all the time.  Doesn't make it normal.[/quote]

There's a line. Saying someone's mother is pushy is not crossing that line. Saying she's a f-king B would be.[/quote]

I disagree.  Wrong side of the line.  Not the counselor's business to editorialize about someone who is not his direct responsibility to support.[/quote]

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