Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 23:30     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Meh
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 22:23     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:The counselor is a racist and needs to be fired.

Troll. It's a TROLL.

Why it's a troll? Racist towards Asians are not racist to you? The Asian hate on DCUM is out of control.

Looks like they got a rise out of you. That's the whole point of a troll.

I simply pointed out the counselor's behavior was racist and should be held accountable. Then a bunch of racists like you jumped in to defend him.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 22:14     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The counselor is a racist and needs to be fired.

Troll. It's a TROLL.

Why it's a troll? Racist towards Asians are not racist to you? The Asian hate on DCUM is out of control.

Looks like they got a rise out of you. That's the whole point of a troll.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:17     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The counselor is a racist and needs to be fired.

Troll. It's a TROLL.

Why it's a troll? Racist towards Asians are not racist to you? The Asian hate on DCUM is out of control.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:09     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:The counselor is a racist and needs to be fired.

Troll. It's a TROLL.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 20:39     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
******You need to report this counselor because of his racist comment.*******

The rest is rude too. But the first comment about Chinese people is actionable. As in, he should be officially disciplined. In my kids' school system, he would be.


+100000
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 19:50     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:Most public school counselors are useless except for the required recommendations which are basically a form letter. You do nothing.


Indicators point to private school. Nice try though.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 19:45     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:DD went to PVI. Oh my sweet &@ck the counseling was worthless. Every single one of them...


I wonder if “worthless” actually translates to “the counselor was too busy helping 250 other students that he/she couldn’t devote every moment to my child’s needs.”
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 18:51     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
DD went to PVI. Oh my sweet &@ck the counseling was worthless. Every single one of them...
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 18:35     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?

******You need to report this counselor because of his racist comment.*******

The rest is rude too. But the first comment about Chinese people is actionable. As in, he should be officially disciplined. In my kids' school system, he would be.

Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 18:33     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
It may not be as bad as you think. My kid’s jerky counselor made some similar comments about me back in the day (nothing about affirmative action - he just thought I was pushy because my daughter had an IEP and it was a fight to get her accommodations) but my son ended up at a good university anyway. I actually think the fact that the counselor didn’t like me probably worked in my son’s favor - the guy felt sorry for my son.

Just stay out of it. I never needed teachers or counselors to like me. I just wanted them to teach my kids and be fair to them.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 18:09     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Lol -- there were two counselors in my hs of 2000 kids. No such thing as "comments on supplementals." There weren't comments on anything.

Y'all have too much privilege.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 18:04     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you’ve done quite enough already. Poor kid.


Yup---stay out of it! The counselor already hates you as a pushy mom. Doing more will NOT help your kid
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:26     Subject: Re:Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
DSs counselor is a useless idiot and I’m definitely concerned about the quality of the letter she’s supposed to write, but nothing we can do about it. Not going to bother asking her for advice.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:14     Subject: Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you’ve done quite enough already. Poor kid.


This.

that's not an "awful" counselor in the slightest, he actually had a meeting with your kid, which is more than most.

No adult employed by a school should tell a student their parent is too pushy. They can think it, they can say it to the parent if they like, but it’s not ok to say that to the child.

No one in authority over where students end up for college should have views that blame “Chinese” for the end of affirmative action.

This guy is awful.
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Why can't they say this? Because they're only there to "serve you"?? Total entitled response from the OP and you. Unbelievable.

Because it’s not appropriate for an adult to denigrate a parent to the child. Keep it between the adults. The student has no power to defend their parent (power imbalance from a perspective of age and authority, especially if that person controls a significant part of their ability to get into college). The student then fears that the adult will take out their frustrations with the parent on the child, but can’t do anything about it - huge loss of trust and confidence.

The school employee needs to keep it to themself, complain to other school employees, or take it up with the parent, NOT with the student. It is inappropriate and unprofessional.


Saying a parent is "pushy" is hardly denigrating. You're too precious.


If a colleague called another colleague pushy at work, that would be inappropriate.
This is worse. Counselor needs to work with the child only and not make reference to the parents. The only exception I see is if the parent is "pushing" the child to attend schools the kid doesn't want to attend at all. Even in that situation, it's not the counselor's business.


Have you ever had a job? It really does not sound like you have.


PP. Yes. 3 decades worth. That kind of comment can be traded between (work) friends but it isn't appropriate. Labelling people is usually rude and can be risky. What's the rudest thing you've said to your boss or to a co-worker in public? Maybe you work somewhere where people verbally attack each other all the time. Doesn't make it normal.


There's a line. Saying someone's mother is pushy is not crossing that line. Saying she's a f-king B would be.


I disagree. Wrong side of the line. Not the counselor's business to editorialize about someone who is not his direct responsibility to support.