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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the only obligations parents have to their children are: feeding, clothing, sheltering them; providing reasonable care and stimulation; being kind to them. 
I don't think there is any obligation like teaching ballet, Spanish, or paying for college.[/quote]

BS.  Adoptive parents have much greater obligations because they are removing a child from its kin, its culture, its identity.  But children are not blank slates that you can just erase and re-form in your own image.  A child who HAS language that you adopt should be taught to retain and preserve that language, just as they should keep the name they were born with.  A child has a right to remain whole and not have parts of them removed for the convenience of adopters.[/quote]

Some kids are named by hospital workers or orphanage directors or people who have no love or affection to the child, but only a duty. Keeping the name your child had when you met them might be really meaningless.

And you have a very narrow view of adoption. Some kids who speak a different language than their adoptive parents are not removed
From their kin or culture by the adoptive parents who end up raising them and making them a part of their permanent family. Sometimes adopted kids end up abandoned and in foster care and end up in families who had nothing to do with their removal from their culture. It is pretty narrow to make a set of “rules” for a group that don’t apply to all in the group. [/quote]

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