Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the only obligations parents have to their children are: feeding, clothing, sheltering them; providing reasonable care and stimulation; being kind to them.
I don't think there is any obligation like teaching ballet, Spanish, or paying for college.
BS. Adoptive parents have much greater obligations because they are removing a child from its kin, its culture, its identity. But children are not blank slates that you can just erase and re-form in your own image. A child who HAS language that you adopt should be taught to retain and preserve that language, just as they should keep the name they were born with. A child has a right to remain whole and not have parts of them removed for the convenience of adopters.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the only obligations parents have to their children are: feeding, clothing, sheltering them; providing reasonable care and stimulation; being kind to them.
I don't think there is any obligation like teaching ballet, Spanish, or paying for college.
BS. Adoptive parents have much greater obligations because they are removing a child from its kin, its culture, its identity. But children are not blank slates that you can just erase and re-form in your own image. A child who HAS language that you adopt should be taught to retain and preserve that language, just as they should keep the name they were born with. A child has a right to remain whole and not have parts of them removed for the convenience of adopters.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the only obligations parents have to their children are: feeding, clothing, sheltering them; providing reasonable care and stimulation; being kind to them.
I don't think there is any obligation like teaching ballet, Spanish, or paying for college.
BS. Adoptive parents have much greater obligations because they are removing a child from its kin, its culture, its identity. But children are not blank slates that you can just erase and re-form in your own image. A child who HAS language that you adopt should be taught to retain and preserve that language, just as they should keep the name they were born with. A child has a right to remain whole and not have parts of them removed for the convenience of adopters.
Anonymous wrote:I'm adopted and I did not speak English when I was a little kid. Now, I have completely forgotten the languages that I spoke and only knew that I was born knowing another language because my parents told me. I think it's a great idea to learn the language of the child you're adopting so that they won't completely forget it.
Anonymous wrote:I think the only obligations parents have to their children are: feeding, clothing, sheltering them; providing reasonable care and stimulation; being kind to them.
I don't think there is any obligation like teaching ballet, Spanish, or paying for college.
Anonymous wrote:In some cases, this is easier than others. Affluent DC-area parents adopting a child from Latin America, French-speaking West Africa, or mainland China will find a lot of language-based play groups or they can get an au pair or nanny who speaks the child's native language. If you live in rural Iowa and adopt a child from rural India, you're unlikely to find someone who speaks the child's regional language.
Anonymous wrote:
Kids gravitate to the dominant language of their surroundings. They just do.