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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you don’t want to get married because you think your girlfriend may change her mind about kids and then you’d be trapped.

People get married because they want to build a life together and want to be committed to one another in a binding way. legally, the process of acquiring and owning assets is simpler if you’re a married vs unmarried couple.

You seem like you don’t want to be committed to your GF if she changes her mind about kids, so you should not get married. [/quote]

OP here. You have summed correctly. Our relationship is great currently we are on the same page. But those next steps which I feel are children and marriage are honestly uncertain. I know I don't want either and my gf doesn't as well. I may change because nobody can predict the future but I may change my mind. I am an only child and I do have a sizeable trust fund I can access so from a monetary standpoint marriage isn't going to make s difference. And I also have great health insurance. I may sound selfish because obviously I am in a great financial stage and not thinking how marriage may benefit my gf but that's not the case because she has her own money and assets as well. [/quote]

If you’re both happy with the status quo (committed but unmarried) then leave things be. If she brings up marriage, just be honest that you’re concerned she will change her mind about kids, which is not something you’re open to. You only have a problem if one of you wants to get married, which right now, doesn’t seem like the case.

I would be honest with her that you don’t want to get married or have kids (if you haven’t already been.) you are both adults who can decide the terms on which you want to be in a relationship, and you’re only wasting her time if you’re misleading her and she wants something else.

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