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[quote=Anonymous]I echo what the PPs have said.

First, you are part of the problem by supporting your 24yo daughter and enabling her lack of ambition.

Second, she is the one making the decision - tell her what you should: it is ultimately HER decision, HER responsibility, and HER life. You'll give her X $$ and she can use it towards the wedding or, perhaps something wiser like a house downpayment.

The last thing you want to do is alienate your only daughter, right? So stop trying to decide what is best for her and treat her as an adult who gets to make her own decisions (with her own money) AND who takes responsibility for herself and her decisions.

Make sure she knows that the potential marriage has been a wake up call for you and your husband, that you've been supporting her for too long; removing financial support is NOT punitive because of her man, it's because you realize she's old enough and making tough adult decisions, like whether to be a mom to someone else's kid. Tell her you love her and want her to be happy and with someone who treats her well.

Lastly, take it easy on her man. I'm sure you realize that lots of vets have emotional trauma and it's typically not dealt with appropriately. So another condition would be to make sure that he's seeing a psychiatrist to make sure he is in a healthy state of mind.[/quote]

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