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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not a mentality, OP. It’s a disability. Educate yourself because sh***ing on people with ADHD does nothing since they already hate themselves. But by all means, revel in your superiority while your marriage falls apart. Hope “victory” feels good. [/quote]

op - HARD no.
I too have ADHD but I still have to step up because it actually is possible to do so when you need to be the adult in the room. so sit down. [/quote]

+1 I also have ADHD and even though I don't always succeeding in managing things I understand it is my job as an adult and parent. It would certainly be nice to dump all my life admin on my spouse and just assume I don't have to do anything but I also understand that I can't do that. I would not be able to respect myself and I could not do that to my partner.[/quote]

What are you talking about?  Her husband did complete the task - he didn’t dump anything on OP.  His kid got to the party, the birthday kid got a cash gift.[/quote]

That's one task-- OP says he does almost nothing unless she reminds him a million times and gives him lots of guidance. She had to cajole him into taking their son to the party and then remind him multiple times about the gift. And if he wanted to give cash he could have told OP the first time "I have already figured the gift out-- were just going to do a card with some cash." Instead he let her remind him over and over while he did nothing. The fact that he was able to figure something out last minute is good but doesn't change a dynamic where he relies on OP to figure everything out and then ask him to "help "[/quote]

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