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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a husband and I can tell you I have less than perfect info in how much my wife spends but I would bet a month’s salary that it’s equal to or more than what you’re describing. I decided long ago not to be a snoop or a judgmental about it.  As long as we can afford everything, and can save enough for college and to be able to retire comfortably in our 50s or early 60s, then the rest was not worth fighting about. My wife can be a ball buster whenever I question her on anything so I have to be judicious about what I push her on.  But she also makes a ton of money for our household and gives me and our kids the kind of live and fun and other intangible gifts things that I can’t even put a price on.  amd yes, she also likes nice things that I would never buy myself but she looks gorgeous when she’s put together. Eventually, I figured, with all she gives us, why am I nickeling and diming her on how much she spends on make up or clothes? If your wife makes you happy, and you can afford this while not sacrificing your long term financial values and goals, then this might not be worth hassling with her about. Now, I acknowledge that she might the kind of person who lives saving money and is willing to be super transparent with you about spending and to roll up her sleeves and help you to make your outflow of cash significantly less, such that it might make a real difference.  But it’s gonna have to be a mutually amicable dynamic between the two of you, and also worth the extra effort for the actual benefit you get. Every time I’ve scrutinized my own spending, and I am as cheap as they come, I rarely discover anything that’s not mostly explained away by the reality of how much life actually costs. I suspect you’re asking for trouble if you’re expecting to be able to go back to her and somehow lay down the law with your own unilateral determination of what’s reasonable. At least not if she’s a modern woman. [/quote]

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