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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, look at her actions. She prefers to hang out with your sister and her family. She doesn't make the effort to visit you or your family.

Knowing that, accept these are the choices she makes year after year, and make your own choices. Still visit her? Meet in a third location? What isn't going to change anything is you spelling out how her behavior is hurtful to you. But consider that you might feel better saying it.[/quote]

good points. 
She has been here before. She isn't allergic. But she simply doesn't enjoy all the activities we do. We go to the lake - a lot, we shop, eat, play cards. 
I want her to know why we're stepping back so I'll tell her. [/quote]

This is making me laugh. There are so many posts where people are complaining that the grandparents just want to sit around and play cards and all the do is basically go from meal to meal. And that the grandparents live in some town with nothing to do. And in this version, granny is like “my kids and grandkids ARE SO BORING.”[/quote]
IKR, if only we could start a swap.

IDK OP, I wonder what the history is like? Have you always been more distant with her than your sister? Was she more involved with  the grandkids when they were younger. When kids are young, grandparents need to bend a lot to accommodate the needs and schedules of busy young families. Now that everyone is an adult, can you ask her what she might like to do? It’s hard to know without understanding your history, but maybe what your mom is hearing is- we want you to come to a place you don’t like and spend the entire time doing things that you don’t like. I think the only way to make things better is to have a direct and condemnation free conversation. Maybe there’s a way to make visits better. Maybe not, but at least you’ll know [/quote]

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