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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have been doing couple and individual therapy and they behave been helpful. However DW I believe has developed some sort of obsession with therapy. The smallest disagreement or dispute it's let's go to therapy. It is starting to feel like a subscription to be honest. The latest event was us disagreeing about where we should go for our next vacation and she got upset during the discussion and you guessed it yet another therapy session. We have been married 12 years and it's always therapy therapy therapy...I have reached the point where the hearing the word from her stresses the hell out of me.....

Is therapy supposed to be like a subscription in perpetuity?[/quote]

This is something you should discuss together in therapy. All of it. Therapy doesn’t “work” if you don’t bring your real thoughts and feelings. A few issues I see from what you wrote:

1) you say you yes her to death to avoid conflict; this is a YOU problem. If you have a therapist he or she will tell you that’s not a way to have authentic communication, boundaries, or conflict resolution. You need to learn how to talk to your wife about what matters to YOU.

2) clearly it matters to you that she wants to go to therapy. Buddy, open your mouth and say so in therapy. Talk with the therapist about how this makes you feel. Talk with your wife. Find out how she feels. Learn how to talk with her about her feelings.

3) You mention constant negativity. That’s something you should bring up in therapy. Maybe your wife needs more support, or maybe she’s going through something and needs medical care — like meds. You need to open your mouth and tell her how her chronic disregulation makes you feel. The therapist is there to help you learn how to communicate to her and for you to be heard.

You sound like you don’t understand that it takes two to tango. You not being able to express yourself and get through to her is an issue that a therapist should be able to help you fix or address in the sense of really facing.[/quote]

I have to agree with OP. I don't think you have come across people who are very difficult to deal with. His wife may need psychiatric help instead because she may need medication. Sounds like an extreme case of AdHD...[/quote]

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