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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, spend what you can afford to to preserve your sanity (this will also help your marriage, which reduces the likelihood of divorce, which is financially crushing). There's no reason to be a mommy martyr.[/quote]

What does this even mean. It’s possible to care for children without outside help without being a martyr. [/quote]

Not for everyone it isn’t. Depends on your kids. For me, it’s impossible. [b]My child has never slept through the night [/b]and is high needs so I’ve been a zombie for years. When I tried doing it all on no sleep I developed high blood pressure and high cholesterol.[/quote]

That’s on you. High needs and refusing to sleep is just blaming it on the inability to set boundaries and sleep train.

You don’t need a housekeeper.  You need to get your child sleeping.

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Np. You have no idea why her kid doesn’t sleep through the night. One of mine wouldn’t sleep train. Years later we found out he had ADHD and anxiety. His inability to sleep through the night had nothing to do with boundaries.[/quote]

Similar story with my son. He did not sleep as an infant- also didn’t latch breastfeeding- and was diagnosed with adhd by age 5. Anxiety by 5.5. Sleep training did eventually work, but he was a very different infant than our NT child. Regardless, dont judge parents who are struggling.[/quote]

Exact same story for my oldest (and not for my NT younger one!)[/quote]

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