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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it "my body, my choice" only when it applies to women?  OP put stipulations in place (condom, less frequent sex) and he is perfectly fine with it.  Why is he being called selfish and an ahole?  
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It's still "my body, my choice." She can't force him to have a vasectomy or have sex if he doesn't want to, he can't force her to carry a pregnancy to term or get a tubal ligation, and neither of them can force the other to stay in the relationship. They can discuss it, and they can have conversations about it, but neither can make the decision for the other.

None of this is inconsistent.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do want one more baby but also know it's a terrible idea for multiple reasons (age, previous C-sections) so it's a hard no.  I will tell DH about the laser vasectomies.  Both urologists he met do things traditionally with a scalpel.

For better or worse, I have used sex as a lever to nudge DH in the right direction.  I limit it to only times I know I can't get pregnant, and tell him things can return to normal once he gets the vasectomy.  The problem is that he seems to have become complacent with this.  I never thought it would stretch out this long.[/quote]

He doesn’t want the procedure. Respect his decision. [/quote]

Having opinions isn't being disrespectful. Forcing is. And from my point of view, if this makes them sexually incompatible, then either can draw the line there.[/quote]

Well said. Discussing their opinions respectfully is part of a healthy relationship. If OP feels that the burdens and risks have been unfairly piled on her, she should voice that opinion. How they proceed from there is up to them. I wonder if similar to a PP if this kind of imbalance is found in other aspects of their relationship too. [/quote]

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