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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he hasn't been drinking and is doing good WHY would you want to encourage him to drink again?![/quote]

Very profound question.

Codependence and enabling seem strong in BOTH OP and stepmom.

Those who have lived with alcoholism are profoundly shaped by it and can become hooked on the chaos themselves or are stuck in the mode of pleasing the alcoholic.

If the family consensus is to discourage, why take a different tack, OP? The same one as only stepmom who you say is strongly in denial?

Him actively drinking again will destroy any quality of life in their final years together. She cannot "moderate" a long term addiction and there will be constant conflict, along with the difficulty of living with an alcoholic not in recovery (meaning not just not drinking but dealing with issues and behavior patterns).

If you care about them, why would YOU enable with your encouragement, OP? You have some very unhealthy dynamics and a disconnect between your recounting of their behavior and your emotional reaction.

ACoA or Coda could be very helpful to you, along with Al Anon. [/quote]

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