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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP, I went to one of the schools you listed in your post and also graduated in 90s I was OOS and knew no one. [/b]I ended up joining a sorority (the shame). I lived 1 year in dorm, 1 year in sorority house and 2 years in a group house with sorority sisters.

The people I still keep in touch with from college are from my sorority and some women who were in my freshmen dorm. None of them live in DMV, most live in big cities of the same state in which our college is located. They are the main reason I am still on Facebook. We don't do a girls trip or weekend (although we have tried, it just that kids' schedules kept getting in the way so we all kind of gave up).

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Same. But instead of a sorority, I joined a club sports team my freshman year. And lucked out because those people were/are awesome (a least a core group of 6-10 of us). All spread over the country now but we get together almost annually and text as a group or one-on-one regularly.

I think there might be something to joining close-knit groups with a shared purpose rather than trying to just make friends? I have only two non-teammate friends from college who I still chat with regularly. I see them maybe once every handful of years.[/quote]

I agree there might be something to this, especially if you are in a major where people don't get to know each other. That was the case for me in my large state flagship -- if you were in the school of Arts & Sciences, which most people were, there was a good chance you wouldn't have more than 1 or 2 seminars with anyone else, even if same year and major. You might wind up in the same large section in Freshman year but then it's a bit of a crapshoot whether you connect because those classes are large and there are lots of non-majors in them.

I think at my school, you either had to click with people in your freshman dorm, join a sorority/fraternity, or join some kind of sport or club where people were very social. Though I also chose not to live in the honors dorm even though I was in the honors program, and later I wondered if that was a mistake. Ironically, the reason I decided not to do it is that the honors dorm was on the edge of campus and was smaller, and I worried that living there would make it harder to make friends because it was separate from the rest of the freshman housing. Dumb![/quote]

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