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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's hard if you put in effort each day. It's like keeping your room clean - if you tidy for 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes before bed, your bedroom never gets too messy. But if you don't invest that time and effort, it becomes a HUGE, overwhelming mess.[/quote]

Can you talk a little about what that daily effort looks like to you?[/quote]

It’s a lot of things. Last week he had a big client meeting and that morning as he walked out the door I blasted the theme song from Rocky for him. I try to compliment often and if I have to criticize do it privately and be succinct in saying what I want him to change . I apologize whenever I should. We normally do our own laundry but if he’s super busy I’ll do it for him. I got him flowers recently. The little things add up so much. I compliment him often. [/quote]

Thank you. Can you share a little About major compromises you’ve had to make in order for the marriage to work? Any personality traits you overlook?[/quote]

Um, I had to get used to how close he is with his parents. It's not abnormal - I was just abnormally NOT close with mine. So we had to compromise on time spent with them, and have some Big Talks about things he tells them and things about me/us he doesn't. We actually went to therapy early in our marriage to work on our communication - he would just avoid me if he was angry or felt I was angry at him and I got passive-aggressive. Learning how to argue constructively and communicate directly blew me away and changed our relationship for the better. I thought going to therapy meant our marriage was doomed and broken - I am so glad he insisted on it. [/quote]

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