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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rude[/quote]

Wedding invites do not = command performance.[/quote]

PP you are responding to.  I agree with you in principle, and I probably wouldn't use the word "rude" if not for OP formulating the question that way. In this case:

1. The extended family is genuinely close.
2. OP hasn't formulated a specific plan or destination for this particular weekend; there is no prior commitment made, no bucket list item to check off, no deposits/tickets involved, etc.
3. There is nothing special about this particular weekend other than that it's 4 days long. There isn't an event/concert/birthday/seasonal highlight, etc. that requires this particular weekend.
4. The wedding/weekend is months away, so there is plenty of time to make an alternate plan.
5. OP's children are young, so there is plenty of time in the future for many family trips. 
6. Because OP and her husband live far away from his family, the opportunities for him and their children to spend time with that whole side of the family, bond/build memories with them are not frequent and will become less so as time goes on.

So, it's not rude but just strikes me as an unfortunate choice. [/quote]

4 day weekends with school aged kids are not common! I would be sad to miss a rare opportunity for a 4 day weekend staycation or short trip with my kids. If it is to attend a family wedding of a supposedly close extended family- that would be amazing.   But if this supposedly close extended family is hosting an event where the kids in the family aren’t welcome, then I’m going to spend the weekend doing something else with my kids, and that’s fine? And neither party should feel bad or mad about this. [/quote]

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