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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don’t want to ruin my friendship because we have been best friends for over a decade but my bf isn’t going anywhere. I don’t want it to be a point of contention.

He has voiced that he finds her a bit dramatic at times and nosey but he likes her. [/quote]

I have been with Dh for over 20 years. I have 3 kids now. Dh and I have many separate friendships. I have friends I hang out with alone that Dh doesn’t especially care for and I’m glad to get alone time with. I have also gotten closer and drifted apart from some friends whose husbands either get alone or don’t get along.

One of my closest girlfriends had a boyfriend/husband who never liked Dh. He and i got along fine when they were dating. We are no longer friends a decade later. I have other friends whose husbands don’t really like or know one another and friendship is in tact. I get to see friend. Sometimes I see the husband. This is what happens when people start settling down.

I have a childhood friend whose boyfriend is definitely quirky and socially awkward. He is kind of rude and I don’t really care for him. I thought my friend could do a lot better. We don’t hang out anymore but it is because we both moved. You don’t need your friends to all think your boyfriend/husband is great as long as you do. Just from your description, I would kind of think your boyfriend is a dud. I wouldn’t say that in real life. Your best friend is close enough to you to say it.[/quote]

But having said it once, she can now stop saying it, or throw the relationship away. I don’t care for my sister’s husband particularly because in 12 years of marriage, and before that while they were dating, he rebuffed efforts to get to know him and generally seemed super uninterested in our family. (And his own. Very quiet reserved guy except with his good friends or the one time we all went out and he had a few drinks.) But sister loves him and he’s not a bad person. So I say nothing and we all vacation together with the kids and various grandparents and it’s fine. I don’t even try to make conversation anymore, just say hi and how are you doing (which gets an “ok” or grunt and no follow up question) but no one gets into fights and it’s all ok. If I ever said anything, I am sure it would harm my relationship with my sister and nephews, and I wouldn’t want that. [/quote]

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