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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a big range between sweats all the time and hooker outfits. Does he just want you to wear a dress or skirt or a fitted top once in a while, maybe look a little nicer for certain occasions? [/quote]

After a bunch of my prompting, he used the word "dowdy" for how I dress. He said it shows in how I dress that I come from a conservative family and was not the black sheep of the family. When I asked if he could give me an example from a celebrity he said Riley Keogh's character Christine in a show I've never heard of. He said I have her body and hair but a better face. I asked if he thinks Jennifer Garner is sexy and he paused and then said no, she's pretty and dresses like the 50 yr old mom that she is. I am going to try the white t-shirt thing and the black mock turtleneck dress someone linked from Reformation.

I'm not offended and he's not controlling. Probably a big part of the problem is that when I go clothing shopping it's usually with my mom when visiting back home. Some of my clothes are actually hers. [/quote]

Was it a problem before he said anything? Were you unhappy with the way you dress/look? Did you ask his opinion, or did he offer it unsolicited?[/quote]

It wasn't a problem exactly. But I haven't been thrilled with how I dress for a few years, and just am not sure how to change. It's okay - it's always appropriate for the occasion. But maybe I'm wearing stuff my mom would also wear and she's a middle aged midwestern mom who loves Kohl's. I think it was me asking a vague question like "does this look good?" when we were heading off on a date, and him saying yes but what if I dressed a little sexier? Then I've brought it up a couple more times since he said that and more has come out. [/quote]

Don't worry about all the crazies. It's hard to stay up with fashion, you are in a rut. LOL when I was young my secretary took me shopping because she was like, you look like a Mathematician. I am a Mathematician... she like yea but you don't want to look like one.

It was awesome to feel like okay there are clothes out there that make me look my age, it's okay to show some skin, it's okay to show my belly (not at work), I'm wearing chino's and waist high jeans when they are not flattering or even in style.

You know if your BF is controlling or not, if he was, he could bring clothes home you hate and ask you to wear them. So many abused people on this site they don't know it's okay to ask your GF/spouse to try new looks. Women do it all the time.

Finding an influencer you like is the best idea. Go into a small boutique and ask the sales lady to help you find 1 outfit for a date.

Don't go from dowdy to sexy, go from dowdy to a tiny bit sexy and then play with it until you get to the right amount of sexy for your personality.

Jeans are sexy btw, if you style them correctly. 
Get a little black dress but throw a leather jacket or jean jacket over it
Get some sundresses in the summer, jean shorts, short skirts. 
Shoes.. ugh that is hard, but high boots, nice sandals, maybe some heals... depends.

Also when you go to a wedding, try "rent the runway". [/quote]

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