Reply to If your DH has a good female friend…

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "If your DH has a good female friend…"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Wise words…thank you. Now if I can just get DH to talk rather than stonewall! I suppose at least it means he still values our relationship, that he’s playing it down and trying to keep it under wraps. But it just feels like there a third person around, sharing pizza night, and I’d like to understand why he seems to need that. [b]Maybe I need to be more present, more attentive, giving etc.[/b][/quote]

No. I know you wish this were the case. I wish it for you. In all likelihood, this isn't happening because you're lacking in any way. Please remember that no matter what happens.

Unfortunately to add, your H is stonewalling to protect the life he has. It's not that he doesn't want you. He wants you, and whatever this other "thing" is. Ask yourself if you're Ok with that. I wasn't. [/quote]

I agree with this a million percent. And as for OP being more present and attentive and giving, I strongly suspect that would just push him away more. Paradoxically, I think that being less attentive and present and giving, and focusing more on what will make you happy, is more likely to turn things around. But who knows, this doesn't sound good. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics