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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Your phrasing makes you sound selfish, but I don't think its what you really mean. [/b]If DH and I had rare date nights and he chose a restaurant he knows I don't like, I'd be annoyed too. If he chose a weekend getaway based on his interests alone, I'd be annoyed.  You aren't really asking for him to only focus on you and your happiness. You're asking him to take into account what would make you happy too. [/quote]

Agreed. OP, you sound selfish in your word choices. But when you explain it sounds reasonable. I wonder if you are not communicating with your DH very well.

FWIW, I plan trips that will only please my DH. He then reciprocates and will do whatever I want to do. Ex: We went on a fly-fishing trip that I planned. I had never been any kind of fishing and had zero interest. But part of the trip was me taking fly fishing lessons with a private guide, who basically took us both to an amazing part of the river that my DH wouldn't have had access to otherwise. It was a magical experience. Next time he took me to Paris. But we both knew to do those things by each of us talking about things we would love to do.

As to date night, if you don't have things to do in common, then alternate. Date night isn't just about you.

All that said, if your DH is doing his own thing regularly without you, basically catering to his own desires, and you aren't doing your own thing without him, then the times you spend together should be about what you would like to do. But that really isn't a strong marriage.  [/quote]

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