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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I genuinely don’t know if I am being reasonable or unreasonable and would like to hear others’ perspectives.

We have been married 10 years and have 2 kids.

During infrequent date nights or weekend trips sans kids (super rare)[b], I want my husband to primarily be focused on making me happy and how I am feeling vs. his own preferences and desires. Once my “cup is full” I have tons to give, but I crave the dynamic of being catered to as a means to relax me and make me feel loved and close to my husband.[/b]

I do not mind if my husband takes time for himself or his hobbies on other occasions, which he does, but on a rare date night I want it to be about me.

Instead what often happens is that he is self-focused and oriented around his whims and desires instead of tuning in with me. For example he will insist on a restaurant he knows I don’t like (he’ll back down if I make a thing of it but who wants to have to do that?) or a weekend destination where he can do an activity he wants to do, like fish or similar.

He has plenty of opportunities to do the things he wants and have his preferences, with me or without me.

Am I being unreasonable for having an itch to feel catered to once in a blue moon and to want to have him indulge me around my wants for a whole evening or short weekend away?

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No one on the world, not even your own mother will worship you this level. Even the most loving individual has a great measure of self interest and is not at awe of anyone at this level. The level of neediness expressed will repulse anyone...if one has to do this much begging, either maybe the begger isn't really deserving of the admiration they want or the begger hates others so much that she demands that people beneath her goodness gives her what she is due. [/quote]

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