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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not unreasonable and I know what you mean. This is the dynamic in my marriage. On the occasions where we get the opportunity to take time for ourselves, my husband enjoys making it all about pampering and indulging me. Whatever restaurant I want, whatever meal I want him to make, whatever movie, long massages, foot rubs, saying sweet things etc. Or if I have decision fatigue and just want him to plan everything he will.

In our day to day life, I am the one doing 80% of the supporting and catering to his needs to keep our household running, our kids happy and healthy, and our careers on track. That's just due to our personalities and where our skillsets lie, not because he's a bum. I NEED those occasions where I feel pampered and doted on and appreciated, or the resentment would build and our marriage would be a disaster. He's doesn't need it in the same way and it makes him happy to meet my needs because...well, happy wife = happy life. It's a truism for a reason.[/quote]

We have this dynamic too.  My husband is very attentive and wants to please me. I certainly do a lot for him during the week so it doesn’t feel unbalanced. Don’t have any suggestions on how to change OP’s husband’s behavior but can understand her wanting a little more attentiveness from him.[/quote]

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