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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s really hard for me to say anything because[b] I don’t know what kind of conflicts led you to this place.[/b]  At some point you loved this person and married, and you have a special needs child which makes divorce harder.

What positive outcomes do you think are going to come out of a divorce?[/quote]

I can’t comment on your situation either without knowing what kinds of conflicts happened and if reasonable or not to come back from.

Stress and anger, neglect and ignorance, black & white thinkers versus gray, lack of empathy vs empathy. [/quote]

Simply put, even if our situation were possible to come back from, I'm not interested in that.[/quote]

Ok, you might not *want* to return your marriage to a loving place, but it seems like maybe in your circumstance you actually need to.

Look, a lot of us sort of dragged ourselves through the process of reconciling with our miserable spouses.  It's not easy but for the sake of our kids it was something we felt we had to do.  You might have to do the same.  [/quote]

I guess I don't understand why someone would find attempting to force that desirable compared to accepting a non-loving coparenting marriage.[/quote]

We “force” ourselves to do a lot of things that are good for us like exercising and going to work.  I don’t understand why you would live with a “roommate” instead of working through your issues and loving each other.  I would find that existence unbearable- maybe OP’s wife is the same.  I was done with roommates after college.  OP presumably had some positive feelings for this woman at some point.  And in the end you would model for your children a relationship that survived ups and downs and came out the other side, which is good for them too.[/quote]

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