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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall. [/quote]

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.[/quote]

Maybe you should try another approach altogether, poster. Try inviting this neighbor for a dinner party - include some other neighbors you are friendly with. Studies show that the best and most effective way of breaking down prejudices is having real conversations with real people and learning that they are not a stereotype.

That goes both ways you know - a lot of prejudiced people are clinging to their prejudices to avoid grappling with the pain they wallow in otherwise. Under the surface of your neighbor's seeming nastiness is just another vulnerable human being. Try scratching the surface.[/quote]

But on the other hand, the neighbor may never get over their prejudice. For example if they are of a particular religion and something about your behavior goes against their religion, you are not going to change their mind by being "nice" or by being vengeful. If your concern is that you don't like what is going on their brain vs  any real tangible behavior toward you, you will just need to move on.[/quote]

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