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[quote=Anonymous]I also can really relate to this and in fact went to a therapist about it.  My child's daily ups and downs and moods were consuming me.  It was TERRIBLE.

Things that were useful for me, so might be useful to others:

-Something is probably triggering you from your own adolescence.  So think it through and figure out those connections.
-You really don't need to be so in the weeds on every detail of their lives.  Listen, but don't ask follow up questions.  Redirect when it's all negative.  
-Trust yourself that you know your child and are connected to your child and if something is REALLY going on with your kid, you will see and know and respond appropriately.  I think a lot of us don't want to shut down this emotional vampire routine because we fear this means we will miss something or the relationship won't be "open" or "good" or "close" or whatever value you're putting on it.  Shift your thinking.  What you are doing is not healthy for you and therefore you can't show up and be the parent they need when they really do need you.[/quote]

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