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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get frustrated around people who are constantly negative. They treat it like an Olympic sport. It’s okay to have negative feelings and it’s okay to express them. But when your whole personality is tied to competition complaining…you’re just going to perpetuate the cycle, you’ll always look for the bad things before you see the good. [/quote]

Well that's something different. I am completely fine with complaining from people but I can't stand competition complaining. But I dislike one-upping in any form, whether it's bragging or complaining. People who do this are impossible to talk to because any conversation only has one destination -- them. But it's not the complaining, per se, that bugs me. It's the one-upping, especially when it takes the form of "you should be GRATEFUL you don't have it as BAD as ME."

But if someone just wants to kvetch about stuff in their life, I am great with that. I'm a pretty naturally empathetic person and good at just listening and validating. I also think I'm good at not being infected by someone else's negativity. I can listen to someone complain about their job or family or neighbor and it doesn't bring me down. If I have the same problem, I'll feel good like "oh, I'm not the only one." And if I don't have the same problem, I will feel grateful not to be going through something hard like that.[/quote]
Yes, I hate people who compete about who has it worse. That is competitive and the opposite of trying to connect via a conversation where you try to share personal details. [/quote]

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