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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Disagree. Of course, I think the kid has the most important opinion. But as the financier and more experienced family member, the parent should have some input. And financial constraints are malleable. Many parents will make voluntary sacrifices (e.g., loans, delayed retirement, etc.) if their kid gets into, say, HYPSM that they wouldn't make for, say, Pepperdine (because their kid wants to be close to the beach). While recognizing that there are many unreasonable parents and many unreasonable kids, it should ideally be something of a team effort with the kid holding more sway.[/quote]

I'm not spending $400K for college just because my kid wants to go "somewhere warm with hot co-eds".

Similarly, "having a good football team" is not criteria for selecting a college.  Whereas, attending a school with good school spirit can be a criteria, but it's in the lower portion of what should be looked at. After say academics, research opportunities, what majors are available should you switch your major and can you easily switch to anything you want (none of this direct admit that prevents you from switching if you want), career center and internship opportunities,  then after that comes the Do you like the dorms, is the area safe, do they have the sports/activities you like, etc.  
But my kid is not just going to pick SDSU because it's warm and near the beach---they need to sell me on why it's the best school for them and academics is near the top of the "why this school"[/quote]

This is a tangent and I'm not disagreeing with you, but I went to UCLA in part because I grew up idolizing their sports teams. My parents were just lucky that it happened to be both good and incredibly affordable (for CA residents in the 90's) unlike a certain cross-town, scandal-prone college. :D  That said, it was nice to go to my literal dream school.

FWIW, while SDSU was generally a safety and party school for my generation, it's risen substantially. It's much more competitive and well regarded these days, at least in CA. [/quote]

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