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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your level of stress is not normal. This is not your life, but your kids lives. They will get in, somewhere. Nobody needs to go to their "dream" college, and shouldn't even have one. They can always do community college for a year or two and then transfer somewhere they'd like to be. [/quote]

It feels like I have a HUGE part in this though. They are so young and don't know enough to decide on their own. They ask for my opinion a lot. This past week was course selection for senior year and even that was a huge decision I needed to give input on. My ds made a mistake freshman year selecting a course and it has hindered him since. It was my fault and it's the reason why he is ranked lower than dd (that one course was not advanced enough) It feels like too much responsibility.[/quote]

This whole paragraph is sad. One freshman class has “hindered” him since? It’s the reason he’s ranked lower than DD - so if you didn’t make this mistake they’d be tied??  
I hope your not feeding this stress and BS to your kids. [/quote]

He is the one who brought it up and yes, that class gets weighted less so it took him down without him doing anything wrong. He was upset about it. I wouldn't know if he didn't mention it.[/quote]

Stop right there.  Did you make the best decision at the time with the knowledge you had?  You tell him that and end of discussion.  [/quote]

I didn't make the best decision. [b]I should have pushed him to take the class dd took.[/b][/quote]

Why? He chose the class, right? He should accept that he made the decision that he thought best at the time and move on from there. If you had pushed him to take that class, he did, and then did poorly, he'd now be blaming you for pushing him. [/quote]

He was just a little kid who didn't know better, and I am an adult who should have known better.[/quote]

OP clearly just wants to feel guilty and stressed and nothing we say is going to make a difference.[/quote]

I get your point but how is what I am saying wrong? We're asking little kids to make decisions that change what college they can get into. [/quote]

HS students aren't "little kids".  How do you plan to make all of their decisions once they get to college?  [/quote]

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