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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this were my kid i would back far away from this club and possibly even travel soccer as a whole. Youve made him believe his identity is tied up in being on the best team and nothing else matters. "Best team" is highly subjective and he is 9, so this attitude is very misguided. Honestly maybe bail, join a rec team for the spring and also add in another sport to remind him that its meant to be fun. Try something he hasnt done before so that he isnt the best and learns to enjoy it and grow. Flag football, basketball, swim, golf, lacrosse, whatever. Try out for another soccer club for the next year, with renewed passion.[/quote]

A good soccer player should go play another sport he's not good at to boost his confidence and self-esteem? [/quote]

DP. I think what PP is saying is that a 9 year old’s identity and self-esteem should not be so tied up in which soccer team they are on. It’s not good to put all of your eggs in one basket at such a young age. It will feel like your world is falling apart if you make one sport or activity your whole world. A 9 year old doesn’t have the emotional maturity of a teen or young adult who has tried different things and made a decision to specialize for the purpose of college or pro level playing. It’s too much pressure on a young kid. If a kid has the tendency to be intense, it’s the parent’s job to help them gain perspective on sports and life. [/quote]

While I agree kids should play other sports, it doesn't mean they should quit one sport and focus on another.  It's very easy to play more than one sport but still have focus on a main one.  My neighbor's kids both plays two sports, but their main sports are hockey and volleyball.  On the side they play soccer and track.  But, when travel season comes around it's hockey and volleyball.  Also, all these parents assuming there is pressure on kids are 100% guessing.  You'd be surprised how many kids I know just love playing sports.  Heck a kid down the street from me plays hockey nonstop and he loves it.  Even has practice at 6am on Friday (yes, 6am) and he wakes up by himself!  He loves the sport.  There is nothing wrong with a kid focusing on one sport.  Too many parents think a kid has to do X amount of sports.  Not always.  There's many different ways to raise a kid and many ways a kid develops.[/quote]

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