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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grandma needs to get told that if she keeps complaining about this, he'll switch to wanting to spend NO time with her at all.[/quote]

Who treats people like that?   That’s just plain cruelty.

I like someone’s idea of having grandma coming over to their house.   I’m sure she’s lonely and  he has more of a social life.

How far is her house?    If it’s close maybe a weekly breakfast or lunch or dinner, whatever works for his schedule .    It’s a tough transition when the grandkids are too busy.  [/quote]

It is not cruel to tell someone to stop being emotionally manipulative! It’s not cruel to explain that continuing to do this will make others avoid being a situation where you can subject them to this.

Boomers need to realize that you can’t treat people like crap just because you are a boomer.  Not recognizing that a teenager isn’t going to want to spend every weekend at grannies and then being a jerk about it to the kid s just really selfish, bad  yet typical boomer behavior! [/quote]

You don't need to "explain" anything to a grandmother who has much more life experience than anyone else involved. She knows what teenagers were like 3x - she was one, she raised one, and she's a grandmother to one. You don't need to explain to her that if she acts in a certain way people won't want to engage with her. She's literally saying "unless you don't want to..." because she completely understands that's possible. She's acting this way for whatever her reasons are, either she's guilt-tripping or honestly saying it's fine if he doesn't want to see her (probably is the guilt trip), she understands the potential that he might see her less, because he's already seeing him less. It is what it is, the DS already has set a boundary by seeing her only once a month and rescheduling when necessary, so he's fine. If grandma's comments annoy him then he will see her less and grandma will either accept it or stop making so many comments.[/quote]

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