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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry OP, sounds like a miserable experience for everyone.

Advice for the future - once things get heated, shut it down. Once things are escalated, you should not be arguing, trading f bombs, etc. Remove yourself, say the conversation is over until everyone can take a breath, whatever you have to do.

Other parents will disagree with me on this one - think of punishments other than the phone. 13 yr olds are all about the phone, that is their life. Your goal with punishment is to make DC remorseful, not to feel like they have nothing to lose. If you can, think of other things you may have as a punishment - you have to do extra chores, no video games for the wk, they are grounded & can’t meet friends over the weekend - something like that. Lower stakes so they feel the pain but don’t lose their crap.

And think about what proceeding the water throwing - what dynamic is going on? Were you all arguing at dinner? Was she arguing with sibling? What was she reacting to? Something made her feel really angry at dinner - can you talk to her about that, to help see what’s going on & how she can deal with her emotions more constructively?

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This is great advice.[/quote]

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