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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with others that if you find a friend behaving evasively around you, and it turns out the stuff they are hiding is really normal (like going to the grocery store) odds are good that you have a conversational style or personality they find overly invasive and are trying to avoid something.

Could be that they know you are the sort to say "oh I'll just come to the grocery store with you and then we can chat" and they don't want that so they are very vague.

Could be they know you will ask them a million questions about it (which grocery store, how do get there, do you shop weekly or more often, are you making something specific, have you tried this recipe website, etc. etc.) and don't want to answer them so they are vague.

Could be they think you are gossipy and overly nosy and likely to share anything they say with others, and don't really want you running off to tell other people "Ugh I asked Carla out for coffee and she said she couldn't because she had to go to the grocery store. How lame is that? She's so anti-social, she never wants to do anything."[/quote]

Wow...you and others are so harsh to OP. Nothing in her post suggests this or her being needy or nosy or overbearing. Her confusion by this friend's behavior is understandable.[/quote]

The fact that she bothered to find out that the prior commitment was grocery shopping indicates she's nosy and overbearing. The fact that she is so bothered by a friend declining an invite for coffee (for literally any reason) indicates she's needy. And she's not actually confused -- the friend said she had something else to do, and then the friend did something else. There's no confusion.

OP is mad that the friend said "I have a prior commitment" instead of "I'm busy." Like this is how controlling OP is -- she's upset about a word choice that is synonymous with what she wishes the friend had said.[/quote]

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