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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have your reasons for divorcing your spouse after 20 years. My guess is that you are sick of being treated like a nanny bangmaid and would like something better for the rest of your life. [b]Your spouse is in denial, likely because everything has been working out just great for him this whole time and if it’s fine for him, it must be fine for everyone. It’s a selfish mindset [/b]but I’m guessing that’s part of why you’re divorcing him in the first place.

I would have a come to Jesus moment with him, preferably with a third party, and make abundantly clear to him that the marriage is over, it cannot be saved, and all he can hope to salvage now is a decent co-parenting relationship and a fair split of the marital assets. Whatever happens next in court and among the family dynamics is up to him, but his cozy situation from the last 20 years is over.

You can let him know you’ll be taking his lead, and as the lesser earning partner you will be asking the court to order him to pay the fees if he decides to go scorched earth. Then give him some time to sit with that, according to whatever separation plan your lawyer has blessed.  That means getting out or getting him out, and starting to put your custody arrangement in place. If you can’t afford to do this without him paying you’re not ready. [/quote]

So very, very true.

And likely brought up many times over the years. Now it’s the straw that broke the camels back.

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