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[quote=Anonymous]My biological father contacted my brother & I right after we finished college. He told my mother he wanted to pay off our student loans and wanted to talk to us. I met with him once and felt a strong aversion to him; my brother really attempted to have a relationship with him and got burned again. I received several long, rambling phone calls from him and a few long letters, but I did not want any further contact or for my kids to meet him, and he died about 10 years later of liver disease - he was an alcoholic - all the stuff about paying off our loans and leaving us his inheritance (rich grandfather left him money in a trust) was all a lie. My mom had warned me that he was a liar. She had just hoped that we would receive something.

Did I get anything out of it? A better appreciation for my mother and her actions which resulted in a better life for us, a deeper gratitude toward the man who stepped in and raised us, eventually adopting us, and biological father's death served as a warning to watch my own behavior so I don't go down the same path - there seems to be generational alcoholism at play here - and I don't want to pass this on to my own children. He did tell me about my grandparents and what they died of and a little about my ancestry. Adoptive father stepped in and paid off student loans.

Be prepared for some mental anguish - I was disturbed to find out I was related to this man - he really didn't have any redeeming qualities. [/quote]

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