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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since this is the Money and Finances Forum, I'll say that I don't think having one person work and the other stay at home creates a healthy power or financial dynamic.

Keep in mind that no marriage is divorce-proof, and this will be a big shift in dynamics.  It might be fine several years, but there may come a time when it's not fine, and then what kind of position will you be in financially?  I see lots of examples of women suddenly divorced and "shocked" that they have no funds or ability to get back into the workplace.  Of course it will never happen to you.  Until it does.

Also - now that my spouse has been out of the workforce for 15 years, I can't really engage with them about the work issues I am facing because they don't have anything useful from experience to offer.  That too has shifted the dynamic.  And I admit that I do think of the money as mine.

These things are separate from what is best for the kids, which is another ball of wax.   [/quote]

Long time SAHM here, now working part time for low pay. DH definitely acts as though the money is his. He wouldn’t say the words, and he knows legally in a divorce it isn’t true, but for anything beyond day to day spending, his attitude is that it is his decision and his alone. No, it’s not a good dynamic. And no he wasn’t like this when I first started staying home. [/quote]

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