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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very sorry to hear this and I know it must be extra difficult since everyone always says that “you’re safe after you see the heartbeat” too. [/quote]

I've lost many after seeing their heartbeats several times. So I, obviously, don't believe that BS anymore. I understand the stats but for some people it's very common to lose pregnancies like this.[/quote]
OP here: it was super unexpected, because the baby’s heartbeat was strong and it measured right on target at the ultrasound. No cause was determined at the hospital, it just stopped growing. :( [b]But the hospital sheet said too much exercise or caffeine could contribute to the miscarriage[/b] and now I’m wondering if I overdid it. :([/quote]

Never heard of this. I am sorry OP.[/quote]
I didn’t know either. My mom said it wasn’t my fault but then this sheet had “Lifestyle Contributing to Threatened Miscarriage” and it listed excessive exercise and caffeine (also nicotine and drugs, but I don’t take those). I had been walking a lot as exercise and drank coffee daily so now I’m wondering what that meant. Like can a healthy baby become unviable because of too much coffee? Or is it like a borderline healthy baby was pushed over the edge by exercise? I’m sorry I sound morbid, I’m just trying to understand. :([/quote]

This is not your fault, OP.  Daily walks and coffee didn't do it.  Please don't go down the hole of blaming yourself.  I've been there, and it is a pointless misery, I promise.[/quote]

+1. Marathoners carry to term, OP - women who run 10, 20, 30 miles a day. Women who drink caffeine and smoke and do drugs carry to term too. This was not your fault.

Unfortunately this just happens. It's happened to many of us. Nearly always there is something wrong with the fetus, an incompatibility with life. Occasionally, as a PP noted, it may be something in your body, but that is very rare (though I too was part of that crowd) and not something to jump to unless you've had several miscarriages in a row. In any event if it were that rare scenario, it still would not be anything you are doing or anything under your control. It's pretty hard to dislodge a viable pregnancy, whereas many non-viable pregnancies dislodge themselves at early stages. It's why many people don't announce until the second trimester, because hearing the heartbeat at 7, 9, 10 weeks is great but not determinative. [/quote]

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