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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don’t need a script or alternative date. Just say next year we are not hosting, we are keeping it small (immediate family). Coordinate with your mom how you will celebrate with her. None of your guests can host everyone? Why is it on you. Let your mom host. I’m over the older generation holding everyone hostage to “the way it has always been”. Your kids should be your priority.[/quote]

Yes, my kids are now my priority. My mom cannot host, she’s a hoarder. Same with cousins. Even if they did host, I do not want to spend the holiday with them anymore. It’s exhausting and not fun for my kids. I’m willing I guess to travel to them and pay for a nice restaurant dinner. I guess I need to just say that and then let it lie. If people are mad, they can be mad. I’m working with a therapist to start putting myself first. [/quote]

Good for you Op. it is hard work but will be the best for your and your family. It is not your fault they struggle with mental issues (hoarding). [/quote]

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