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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Start right away laying some groundwork.  Message them super casually that it was nice to see everyone but boy are you all wiped out.  Say “I’ve learned my lesson as the kids are getting older that we can’t keep up a week of festivities.  We’ll chat again after New Year’s because I’m taking some downtime.”  Then later in the year toss out “ before anyone starts planning logistics for the holidays. We just wanted to put it out there that we’re not planning to host such an extended event next year.  We’d love to have everyone over for brunch on 12/x or a post-Christmas dinner on 12/x.  If someone else would like to host, we’ll come to you before or after as well.  We just prefer to have a low-key day this time around.”[/quote]

This is good in theory but in reality it will just snowball to what OP is trying to avoid.

OP, you need a hard reset. Go away next year - take a vacation where you miss the week of Christmas. Then the year after, scale back to one event. Or maybe you'll decide you like the vacation plan so much more, you can be off the hook permanently. [/quote]

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