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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a lot of people are assuming your mom might have a year or 2 left and that you are wealthy enough for sayings like "you will never wish you had worked more. You will wish you had more time with your mom." Be prepared that they can live a very long time in an ever-worsening state and there could be some scary personality changes.[/quote]
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At some point it won’t require the day to day right?  Because they’ll be far gone enough to not know one way or the other how often someone has visited or for how long, correct?[/quote]

Yes and because of this is when they need the most support. They need an advocate at their most vulnerable period. Apparently you hate hearing this but it is true. [/quote]

I disagree. My mother  has dementia and in the early stages we took her on cruises with her family including grandkids. Spent a lot of time with her when she knew who we were and could at least remember some things. I took my kids to visit several times a week. Now she is in the ending stages. and I rarely visit. I have no guilt about it and I don’t think it makes a difference. It just seems to interrupt her routine. What does she need an advocate for at this stage? No one should have to suffer through end stage dementia. It’s cruel for the suffering person and their family.[/quote]

You now rarely visit? How cold and you should have guilt. Disgusting. [/quote]

If her mom is being well cared for, what is so bad about rarely visiting? I try to visit my mom once a week but honestly it doesn't really improve her day much and since she has no memory she neither looks forward to my visits nor fondly remembers them afterward. And she does not know who I am so it does not feel like a family visit to her. I pay someone to check in on her several times a week for a few hours. That person is my eyes and ears.[/quote]

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