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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 14 year old son was recently diagnosed as  Asperger’s (high functioning ASD). After years and years of interventions for various issues the diagnosis made complete sense, sort of a finally we know what’s going on exhale. However, as I’ve researched how best to help/support DS I realize my DH is also an Aspie. Putting the ASD filter on his sometimes odd behaviors and maddening communication style makes everything crystal clear. I’d also bet my mother-in-law has the same thing. Holy crap I feel like an idiot - I’ve been married for 20 years![/quote]

Don't feel bad - I am in the same situation. It took me a while to really come to terms with the fact that my DS's traits actually are autism. He does not outwardly appear autistic in the stereotypical sense, and when I was certain he had autism as a toddler, I was dismissed as an over-anxious first-time parent because he was meeting all his milestones and seemed "fine." Fast forward years later, and after going back to school post-COVID, he kind of fell apart. Now I understand it, but it has taken a lot of learning about what autism actually is when it's in someone who appears to the outside world to be pretty neurotypical.

Then my DH recently got into questioning whether he has autism. My first reaction was "hell, no. You have undiagnosed ADHD but it is clearly not autism." Now, a few months into it, I actually see it really clearly and wonder why I didn't before. My MIL also clearly has it but was also very resistant to any notion that DH had a diagnosis of anything when he was a kid, and he wishes he had gotten more support from school and therapy then. Anyway, I beat myself up for not realizing it until now, but honestly, it seemed like things were going slightly better in the past before more of life's stresses made it more apparent and harder for him to fully cope.[/quote]

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