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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I feel like from the minute I wake up at 6:30am until the minute the kids are finally asleep at 9pm I don’t have a single minute to myself. Either a kid needs something, someone at work needs something or my husband needs something. Or my dog needs something.

My only “me time” is working out 30 minutes a day. Or walking my dog and I can listen to a podcast.

It is exhausting day in and day out for the past decade. [/quote]

You had three kids.

You have a dog.

You likely have a lifestyle that requires you and your DH to work FT in jobs that probably are fairly demanding, and you likely think you could never cut back at work, either because you need the money (for life now or college later), or because your jobs are an intrinsic part of your sense of self-worth and meaning in life.

Many, many people (actually most people in the world) don't have the same value system or personal goals you have. I have never once in my life wished I had three children. I come from a family with four kids and it was too many and my parents were overstretched. I like dogs but think they are too much work, especially when you also have a young child or two. I often make choices around work that are about enhancing free time and reducing stress, because that is how I choose to live and I only get one life.

I hope your life is fulfilling to you and your family, but it is myopic to think think that everyone strives for what you have, or feels inadequate if they don't have all the same stuff. You are busy because you have chosen that for yourself. It is not simply the way it has to work. You chose this.[/quote]
This.  A lot of people don't "do it," because they don't want "it."  They make different choices because they have different values and priorities and beliefs.[/quote]

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