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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So do you get me time on those alternate days? [/quote]

We are supposed to alternate days. But on his days I was picking up the kids, cooking, and driving them to activities. He would come in a little before 5 to eat the dinner I cooked and put one kid to bed while I took the other one to an activity. The other weeknight that was mine we had marriage counseling.

I was not happy with this and told him we have to change it. He brought up his “needs” for “autonomy” to the counselor so we are bashing it out. However I think this is not normal. Both my parents were always home in the evening unless something unusual was happening. I might have a work dinner once in a while, but I would never expect to eat out several nights a week on my own and do my own thing with young kids.

We used to have more conflict on this and I just gave up trying to explain to him. When our kids were very young, my “me” time was if I had a shower or went to the bathroom alone. He thought it was horrible that he has no time outside the family but it honestly seemed pretty normal to me from talking to other families with our situation. Like if you have a baby and a toddler and someone needs to get a meal on the table and there’s bedtime, that’s all hands on deck. He acted like I was super controlling and ridiculous for “not being able to handle it alone.”[/quote]

It is too bad he didn’t realize his “needs” before planning for a second child. People with only children can achieve this level of autonomy pretty easily but people with multiple children rarely can.[/quote]

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