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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I only have sons. I guess I should hope for a quick demise and not some lengthy illness. [/quote]

OK, your best bet here is a Confucian DIL. Chinese DILS take care of their ILs. Historically, that's why boys are so valued as a retirement asset in China - because they bring in the person who does all the actual household labor. 
And that is why girls are not valued by their birth parents. Upon marriage, the girls become literally the property of the ILs. So parents look at their daughters as resource hogs who will eventually become someone else's property and asset. That's ancient China, but the sentiment has deep tentacles in the culture today. 
Anyways, a Chinese DIL, meaning one with close ties her culture, not one of those Asian-Americans who thinks General Tsao's chicken is actually a Chinese dish, will treat her elderly with respect.[/quote]

Gone are the days when DILs could be forced to become caretakers of ILs. If needed, their own kids should do it themselves, why delegate it to someone else's kids.[/quote]

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